Let go of the past and face the future! ok...

I honestly do not understand why digging up the past is such a good idea. Is it not better to "let the past go" and focus on doing what needs to be done for tomorrow?

I do not understand why therapists believe that digging in a person's yesterdays will solve today's problems. The only thing in my life that was not tarnished was my childhood. That is until therapy digs up childhood sexual abuse. What I am saying is childhood had nothing to do with the why I ended up divorce twice or that I married abusive men. In my eyes, it would have been far better to deal with the issues of divorce and making a new life than to have spent years digging up the past. All of this digging has made me resent the time spent in therapy. And feeling ooo sooo slimy and dirty.. I thought therapy was to help one grow and be a better person, not come out wanting to hide under the covers.....

My memories of childhood was good. I was a happy child. A good child. Life was grand. so I thought..... So not only my "adult" life has been screwed up, I might add by my choices, but now my childhood is shattered.

I guess what I am saying is what good was it in my early 40's to recall yesterday when what I needed was help with dealing with the now. It feels like I have nothing positive to draw from now. Just junk.

Ok to to add.. I do believe if a person's past trauma is hindering their "today" life, then therapy would indeed be beneficial... A person has chosen to work on childhood issues and that is a lot different than when a therapist digs and digs and digs till they find as they call it "the root" of the problem.. ooooo yes and then the therapist tells one to "contain" or put bad stuff in bad memory box and put it away.. Heck that is what I did originally.. But I can't find the box or which box I neatly hid the memories.. They got out and haunt me... Allll thanks to therapy.....

Soooooo whyyyyyyy is it so important to dig up memories that have well been forgotten....??????????