AlteredState

I'm sorry if my post offends you. I did think this was the board for caregivers, not sufferes, and was looking for support and advice from those who LIVE WITH or care for someone wtih Depression.

It does not escape me how he feels, believe me. If it did I'd have no struggle, I'd just count my losses and move on. I feel for him, I have empathy. If I could take the depression away I would in a minute. I've supported him for years as he suffered episode of depression. I've also tried to him make choices.

Those questions you ask me to consider are a double edge sword. It's the nature of the disorder and yes it affects all surrounding it.

And your right, I am trying to find support while I work through the process, a sort of venting, read through the tears place. I guess this wasn't it. I didn't feel I was unfair posting in the "caregivers" section.

And your post actually sounds like it could have been written by my husband. Over the years we have discussed together your question #2 and 3 many times.