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Apr 12, 2013, 08:58 AM
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Member Since: Dec 2012
Location: California
Posts: 2,248
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Daisymay
I think once you have found someone who seems to provide you with the 'strength' you need then it is very hard to decide you can manage without them and provide yourself with that 'strength'.
What do you think? Anyone else feel like this?
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I don't agree. When I was in school and took a child development class, I remember learning that the most secure babies were the ones who were generally responded to when they cried, and not routinely left to "cry it out." The logic behind it was that if the baby knew someone would come if they got in trouble, they felt more confident trying things.
I think therapy is like that. And everytime I've been in therapy, there came a time when I just didn't feel the need for reassurance or a sounding board, or whatever, and I happily skipped off into the sunset. I've never had a time-limit on my therapy. But the day came that all of a sudden I didn't look forward to T because I'd rather be taking a walk or visiting with a friend. ONe time I slowly weaned myself. I'm reminded of a Anais Nin quote:
“And the day came
when the risk to remain tight in a bud
was more painful than the risk
it took to blossom" Anais Nin
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