In reality, it doesn't matter about the INTERPRETATIONS of the clergy....the only thing that matters is what God says to you & he has spoken very clearly in telling you to turn your attention northward & upward. The Bible is the only word that counts.

I actually left my H 6 years ago.....moved 2100 miles away. Initially I was going to leave it as just a separation.....but he's going to destroy me financially if I don't get the divorce. I am working on the divorce now after he let the house go into foreclosure last year, & my name was also on it.

I didn't have the abuse you are going through with your H....but I had the problem where he wasn't responsible to be able to take care of anything financially when I wasn't capable & he destroyed us.....I left when I got my inheritance after my mother died. I didn't care at the time what anyone said.....I couldn't handle the feeling of anger that completely filled me....I could no longer function & would end up seeing red anytime I had to deal with him....living in the same house for 13 years while being separated was HELL.

I know that God was the designer of this move because it's been a chance to come to a real relationship with God that I was never able to have before.....a whole new world opened up with this move. Divorce is only to protect me financially & I wouldn't bother if that weren't the case. It's wonderful to have the support of all my believers support I have.....they have no problem with the divorce & have never said anything negative about it after hearing what I have gone through with his lies by omission.

For me, I am 60 & decided when I left that I will NEVER marry again & no sexual relationships outside of marriage so initially it didn't matter whether I got divorced or just stayed separated....but the financial issue became huge & the lawyer said the only way to protect myself is through divorce......church people & pastor & friends have no problem with that. I'm filing for divorce out of state, but trying to negotiate some of our things because when I left I basically ended up leaving almost everything I owned.....H packed my moving truck before we had determined it to be a complete separation.....or things would have been backed differently.