Reading this article brought some very specific people from work to mind who seem to wear their sulkiness on their sleeve very "loudly" for the world to see. I don't run into this so much in my personal life; we've gotten to be pretty open and communicative around here. But some people seem to sulk as if to say, "Everybody look. I'm the victim here. Everyone is out to make my life miserable and difficult. The world is against me." ("But I'm not going to talk about it because I'd rather pout and drag all of you down with me.")
Whether that is really there intent or not, I have no idea (because they won't just communicate honestly what is going on with them to anyone in the first place.)
I like that last couple of sentences of the article: "Group therapy is particularly effective, where anything is allowed except sulking. Anyone who gets in a huff is ignored." That is kind of the dynamic that I see happening in work, although work is obviously not group therapy. Those that sulk the "loudest" are ironically the most often ignored because people really find that behavior passive-aggressive, completely irritating, entirely negative and demoralizing to everyone around them, and just really an immature way to "handle" stress.
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