I NEVER contact my T outside of an appointment except to try to make/add an appointment. I wish I felt better about reaching out to people, but I generally feel guilty for doing that. I should have reached out to her a year ago when I ended up in the hospital for two days, but I did not. After that incident, she made me check in with her every day for a week. I did not have to talk to her and only talked to her once, but I had to call and leave a voicemail message stating how I was doing. Looking back, I think it was her way of making sure that I reached out good or bad…so, if I was bad, I had to call her anyway and would be more likely to tell her…clever T….

I actually found myself wanting to call her Tuesday regarding something that happened that we had specifically discussed the possibility of happening. However, I’m just not sure if it is something that I should contact her about outside of session. I did discuss it with family and several close friends. I guess, If I’m not completely distressed, I feel like I shouldn’t contact her (and, like I said, even then, I’d have a hard time contacting her), and I should lean on others, if I can. So, it will have to wait until I see her in a week and a half.

On the flip side, my T is very good about calling back or checking on me if I have a very tough session. I know that a plus side of me not abusing the system (or not really using it at all) is that if I did call, I’m certain that she would call me back ASAP. The one time I left her a message saying that I really needed to see her to talk about something and sounded distressed, she called me back within two hours.