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Old Apr 12, 2013, 01:15 PM
camo camo is offline
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You sound so much like my daughter it is scary! She is also in 10th grade - if you are my daughter, well, I guess I'll find out soon enough! But, I think it is good to talk to people with similar feelings. My daughter takes after me, so I guess you take after me too! My daughter is very sensitive and is easily hurt by people -- so, I think she avoids them because of that -- just fear. Fear of being hurt and rejected. This is why she may have only a few people in her life that she trusts to not make her feel that way. I think this is somewhat hereditary obviously because she is just like me. I try to reason with her sometimes -- like, "not everyone is going to like you" that's normal. "Not everyone is going to be kind to you", that's normal too. She needs a thicker skin to be part of a bigger social world -- and needs to understand she is not perfect. I think sometimes she doesn't "try" things because she's afraid she'll fail - so what!! Failing is actually fun sometimes -- makes you feel like you are human! She is a quiet, introverted type person, which I believe in our society is not valued enough - ESPECIALLY when you are in high school when EVERYTHING is about socializing and friends! She doesn't want to show that she is "quiet" so she goes to great anxiety when she is in social situations to be something she is not -- afterward, she feels exhaustion. I think it is ok to have "two" good friends, but, you have to accept the fact that they are different from you and don't want to spend time with one person all the time - that's ok - and the way you are is ok too! You are young - you can start now doing little things to take you out of your comfort zone. It sounds like you want people in your life, but it is up to you how many you have/want. The dividing line is "how do you feel that you have only two people in your life" and do you "feel like you are missing out of showing yourself to others and doing things you could be doing"? Sounds like you feel like you are missing out. How about, next time you know that answer, raise your hand and say it - if it's wrong, so what! What's important is that you tried - we're all wrong a lot of times - remember that! You are probably a loving, sensitive, smart, beautiful person like my daughter - really, the only person that doesn't see that is her! Nice talking to you - sorry for the long post but this subject is near and dear to my heart! Take care.