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Old Apr 12, 2013, 04:51 PM
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Originally Posted by H3rmit View Post
Seems like what you are doing wrong is refusing to accept cultural reality that small talk is a way for people to gauge you and get comfortable with you. They don't want your intense and serious stuff dumped on them until they get to know you in a safer context first. They have boundaries. It's culture. Live by it or die by it. It hurts to not know how to function in it, as I know from 40 or so years of painful experience in that regard.
Not at all what I meant. I mean that whenever anyone is in need I am there. I advise, I comfort, I listen....once they have what they "need" I am then meaningless to them.
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