I tell my T the good and bad stuff at our appointments. I am very conscious that I pay for just an hour of his time every few weeks. I wouldn't want to overstep that.

I did call him once right after therapy when I had had a terrible car accident right outside of his building. It totalled my car and I was probably in shock. Of course he didn't answer the phone because he was in session with another client. So that was useless and unsatisfactory. He did call back the next day, but I didn't need him then.

When my father died, I told my T about it at our session and he acted surprised I hadn't called him when it happened. That surprised me. I don't know what would be considered events that are acceptable to call T about and what are not. It's easier not to deal with trying to guess the distinction and just not call at all and discuss everything face to face in session.