I've felt like you too. I learned at least for me that I had to become my own role-model.
I don't know about you but for me reading about other women that have overcome being objectified helped. I read a lot and then I met this one woman who was sicker than any man I've known. That changed my mind about how men are the enemy. I also dated a guy that was objectified by women.
But you're right I was objectified until my mid thirties. Was never taken seriously. Then I educated myself and haven't looked back.
Btw, it's rainy where I'm at too.