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Originally Posted by peaches100
I had a hard time voting because my situation is a bit different from any of those scenarios. My t does give advice at times, but when she does, she normally tests me out with phrases like,
"Have you considered trying this?"
"Would you be willing to practice such-and-such this way?"
"How do you think it would work if you did it this way?"
She doesn't tell me what to do, but gives me ideas to try if I am willing to consider or try them.
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Thanks, peaches, you said what I was thinking.
I voted for "No, and I don't want her to" because I enjoy the exploring we do to help me see options and to know what I want (the many aspects of that).
Sometimes it seems like 'advice' but kind of veiled, in that the statement begins with a phrase that makes the decision my choice and not a directive. When I hear it as advice or a directive, she lets me know that she means it to be an exploration and not a directive. She told me she would not state directives because it opens up the possibility of a patient feeling as if they have to behave in certain ways/'perform' and the possibility of thinking they have displeased, disappointed the therapist, or even the possibility that they have pleased the therapist (instead of pleasing themselves).
She wants to help me by thinking with me, and supporting my decisions.