Thanks every one, your input on forgiveness is really helpful, here is some thing i think that in some ways holds me back from forgiving her,at first it was about what she did to me,and her other client,maybe if it would have stopped at that,i think forgiveness could have happened,and moving on would be lot easier,but it was what she did at the hearing,she took my words that i used in therapy in her office,and used them against me,words that didn't have any thing to do with the money that she borrowed from me,even the judge kept saying does this have any thing to do with the $ and her lawyer would say no, but xT and her lawyer kept using my words, my words should have stayed in the therapy room, she may own the paper that my words are on,but the words belong to me, after all isn't that what T's want their clients to do,trust them with our words. Sorry for going on and on,but it felt good to get it out!!