I agree with bebop and darkeyes. Although, personally, I would not entirely quit drinking around her (like having a beer or two while doing yard work), but I would not drink as much, or get drunk, in front of her.

As a recovering alcoholic, I know that the temptation-factor is very high for quite a long time - regardless of what she is saying. It could only take one little upset to send her reeling and back to the booze.

I'm betting she is feeling embarrassed, first and foremost, and insulted at the fact that she perceives you as not trusting her. She may even use THAT ONE as an excuse to get hammered again.

Drink once in a while, that's ok. It will, at least, show her that you are not trying to hide anything and that you do trust her (whether you do or not at this point in time).

Just don't leave any around, if your house is now clean of alcohol (harder to do if you have a bar in the house). Only bring home enough for your immediate enjoyment.

Best wishes!

Altered State