Hi Coco,

A lot of the issues you raise in your message I've experienced a lot in my life. One thing that I've been trying to do that has made the pain and hurt I feel in intimate relationship less intense is try to focus less on the external and more on the internal. For example, the boy who you say left you because you were depressed may have in fact decided to be with someone else for reasons that you'll never know. But realistically, those reasons had nothing to do with you per se, they were more about him. The other examples you give suggest the same; you don't really know what's going on with the boys you're talking about...

Hugs,

RJ