HI, Radio...
I too remember feeling frustrated with my counselor because of his questions about my childhood, not wanting to delve into it, but instead get on with the present.
That was in my early 40's also. Now, 16 years later, I have processed a lot of my upbringing on my own, with a few other counselors along the way.
I realize, for example, that my choices in partners was directly linked to the conditioning I had a a young child, having no voice, and never seeing a happy home and loving parents, just fights, depression, struggle, and physical abuse.
Now, having processed all of that, I'm much more centered and content...sans partner! which will probably never be for me, but otherwise success in living.
LOve,
Patty