Hi Short&Cute! I'm sorry you're dealing with all of this. I know how it can cause stress.

You need to URGE your son to go to the doctor about his depression!!! He can't just live there and lay around, doing nothing about his depression. He's got to talk to his doctor, and either be referred to a therapist, or get on an antidepressant. Doing NOTHING is not an option. HE will feel better and YOU will be better able to deal with the situation. After he feels better he will be able to get a JOB.

Your daughter needs to learn RESPECT. Girls at 17 can be very disrespectful. Sometimes they learn this behavior at school from other girls, and sometimes it seems to be the hormones raging. But they can be very hard to deal with. My own granddaughter was living here for a time, and SHE became disrespectful, and she was NOT brought up like that, believe me!!! We put her in therapy, because for one thing she ASKED to go, which surprised me. But another she had alot of issues that needed taking care of, and now a year and a half later, she's still in therapy.

Tell your daughter that you : EXPECT RESPECT. YOU EXPECT NOTHING MORE BUT WILL ACCEPT NOTHING LESS. She should be old enough to understand this! If she refuses to give you the respect you deserve as her mother, then ground her, take away all her "extras" like her phone, music system if she has one, car keys, etc. Tell her she can get a job and earn the money to BUY these things herself. Tell her that until she can learn about respect, she cannot have these things back, and you don't mean just a day or two of "yes mother." It had better be a few weeks of respect. You're just not going to TAKE it anymore!

If you don't take a firm stand with her, she's going to have trouble in the "outside" world when it comes to dealing with authority figures. When she gets a job, and her boss gives her an order or whatever and she starts mouthing off, she's going to get fired in a heartbeat!

I wish you the very best. God bless and please take care. Hugs, Lee