Just curious? Have you ever talked to a Psych about your ex re: his behaviour patterns over the years, how they manifested themselves, at what periods of your lives together were disrupted by his illness, was it a gradual disintegration or just one great big snap, for the most part? What were his physical, emotional, reasoning skills doing during each of these "periods?"

I'm just wondering if you could get some sort of "profile" done of him. It could never be 100%, but with what is known about human nature and mental illnesses, they may be able to get you closer to an actual diagnosis that just winging it on your part. (Not implying you don't already have a good idea of what he may be suffering from) You would, of course, have to be very objective in how you describe your life with him - leaving emotions out in a personal relationship is very difficult to do. But, with the mountains of evidence you have, I bet they could come very close.

I guess the only way he may ever go see a psych would be through a court order. (good luck with that, you say? I agree).

You know something? It may be difficult to determine "exact" illness(es) as it takes a long time for a therapist to observe an individual in order to diagnose an illness unless, of course, one is a research subject and studied 24/7. However, it sounds like the ex is quite volatile and that is DEFINITELY something not easily hidden (he hasn't fooled you! If he continues to get worse, then he will no longer be able to fool anyone as his life will disintegrate); neither is vindictive behaviours like he is showing - through the perfect place - the court system. They are onto individuals like that. It may be that you can ultimately get a Judge, at some point, to have him evaluated by order, especially if his harrassment increases.

WHY ARE THE COURTS SO SLOW WHEN THE EVIDENCE IS RIGHT THERE IN FRONT OF THEM?????

Oh man, I sooo feel for you re your ex being a computer geek extrordinaire. So is mine! I have had to let go of my issues about using his computer (which I mainly do since I'm at his place most of the time) because it is nothing for him to see what I'm up to. It's freaky knowing he can track me, but so handy when my computer blows up... (a little joke, sorta)! I just keep saying to myself: "total extrovert, total extrovert...")

Take care always!