hi i am new to this forum and am married to a man who was diagnosed with mental illness/bipolar 5-6 years ago. he doesnt take any meds and does not want to see a doctor. we have been married for 4 years and things are escalating. his bouts of anger are more frequent. he is verbally abusive and mentally abusive. i know that the most important thing one needs when dealing with bipolar/IED is patience but i am at my breaking point. all i do now is cry and its hard for me to even look at him in the face because of all the words he has used. he always says sorry but i seriously don't know what to do. please anyone give me advice. how do i cope? how do i help him?