Don't feel bad, I am going through the same thing. I keep trying to explain to my husband that chemical depression and situational depression are not the same thing. I am afraid to tell him I am depressed because he either yells at me to snap out of it, or pooh-poohs it. As for work, I feel better when I do, even though mine is once a week volunteer type stuff. I think it's the getting out of the house part and away from the situation that helps me. Oh yes, I too was there when he went through a medical drama. It wasn't easy because he got awfully mopey. Turned out he was depressed, but didn't care to tell me about it. Oh well! His loss.