Arod is right - you have to meet the person. It's very different and impersonal via online. We are more honest because of the anonymity. I write more expressive emails to friends than verbalizing it - only cuz I know I won't have to see their reaction and will give them time to digest.

I shut ppl out cuz I have a fear of committment. I got anxiety attacks when I got engaged only to end up cancelling it 2 mos later. Before that... I got hives for being in a serious relationship. Not sure why... just not in my nature to be all lovey dovey.

But if you do love each other - then things will work out. They always do. Just give it a try... if you don't then you'll always wonder. It's normal to be nervous... we tend to shut down when we're having a fear or in a nerve wrecking situation. Just take it as it is... nervousness.