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Originally Posted by hamster-bamster
No. If you make the assessment that you want to be skinny while you are objectively not in need of being skinnier, you are still wrong.
Likewise with the want for a smaller nose. You are unable to form an objective assessment.
So while you can think you are ugly, in the abstract, and call such thinking an opinion and be OK with it, as soon as you start mentioning your concrete wants, you show lack of objectivity.
Plus, by posting the picture and soliciting male opinion on the ugliness, you probably believed the their opinion on your looks is somewhat more important than yours.
If you want to be extra precise, though, you need to rephrase the question - you need to ask how guys react to women who are not objectively ugly but perceive themselves as ugly.
I do not know the answer to that question, but if I were to imagine myself in the position of a hypothetical guy dealing with such a woman, I would leave immediately, because the neediness that would come from this sort of arrangement would not be something that I would look forward to suffering through.
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First of all, I made the statements of hypothetical wants (smaller nose, skinnier body, etc) in response to YOUR statement "what more could you want?" AFTER you had made the comment that I am "completely out of touch with reality" to prove a point that as a female there is always going to be something looks wise we want. That doesn't mean I am actively pursing those wants.
Second, I didn't post a photo of myself soliciting male opinions on my degree of "ugliness". Allow me to point out the fact that YOU posted a link to MY Psych Central page where it had a photo of me which I took down to avoid further conflict.
I started this thread with the genuine intention of seeking a general consensus from the males on what matters more looks vs personality. You made it about me, I didn't.
So judge me all you want for my questions, that's fine. Just be aware that you have no tact.