I can't really advise you, because I never got through to my parents or stepmother about how I was feeling, no matter what I said. I was far away from them both emotionally and physically. I told my father once that I had panic attacks and he just shouted at me ... Now, we just talk on the phone briefly 3 or 4 times a year. It is probably better that way. He lives in Scotland and I live near London, and we haven't seen each other for 8 years. I hope you find a way to get through to your family,

Take care,
Hugs,
Fuzzy