Dear Courtney,

I have found, the initial attraction I have for a woman, morphs, as I experience her. Sometimes, a woman who originally turned my head, doesn't look so good anymore, as I get to know her. Other times, a woman, I initially barely noticed, enchants me over time. It is really, all about the total being and how they present themselves.

I find it difficult, to find a woman unattractive solely on her physical attributes. Concomitantly, I find it difficult, to find a woman attractive solely on her physical attributes. A warm smile, and a pleasant, respectful disposition, go a long way to make any woman attractive. Obnoxious, arrogant, disrespectful, self involved behavior, can make any woman ugly.

Lastly, I'm sure you have heard the phrase, "she has a nice personality", said in mitigation of a woman who is not considered particularly attractive. These women, generally don't have a nice personality, i.e., they don't love or admire themselves for who they are. They don't respect themselves. If they truly had a nice personality, they would be attractive. Physically, they are not attractive enough to get by on their appearance alone, i.e., at least in the short term.

Maybe, the best single word to describe a woman, or a man, in an overall, positive sense, i.e., personality and appearance, is charming.

Courtney, you are charming!

Larry