I was listening to an audio book and the mention of "give in" - see in bold in the quotation below - reminded me of your question.

From Lolita by Nabokov:

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When the bride is a widow and the groom is a widower; when the former has lived in Our Great Little Town for hardly two years, and the latter for hardly a month; when Monsieur wants to get the whole damned thing over with as quickly as possible, and Madame gives in with a tolerant smile; then, my reader, the wedding is generally a "quiet" affair. "

So in the book Madame wants the Monsieur to marry her - she writes him a letter with a proposal. And yet, she "gives in". Another synonym used in the audiobook was "surrender", but I cannot find the right quote online.

So another way to view your question is according to the more or less Victrorian stereotypes of female and male behavior. According to those stereotypes, the female should not be too enthusiastic. Even if she feels enthusiastic, she should not show it. She should still put up a little fight, say "no-no, please, no!" and yet, later, "give in".

So that would be another read of your question, but then you need to poll people who have personal experience upholding Victorian stereotypes. Maybe there is even some formal guidance on the web, with numbers.