I'm sorry that you feel so hurt that you want to withdraw. There are definitely mixed messages here so it's not your fault to feel confused. If a therapist truly wants to work with you even about dependence/independence this is not exactly a smooth approach to the issue. People become attached for lots of different reasons. Some therapy is actually designed to foster this so that you can see some basic needs and address them. Perhaps bringing that up, like others have suggested, would be helpful in reconnecting in a therapeutic light? I'm not sure because I don't know why your therapist is doing this.