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Apr 17, 2013, 07:18 PM
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Member Since: Mar 2013
Location: USA
Posts: 1,486
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Basically she says I'm too dependent now I guess,something I've been trying to avoid from the beginning.
This sounds like your interpretation of what went down, not a direct quote. Which isn't to say your perception is inaccurate, but sometimes in the heat of the moment, when such terribly sensitive issues come to the fore, we can misinterpret what our therapists are saying. Do you think this could be the case -not entirely, but in part?
How did she convey to you that you were being too dependent? You say 'I guess' so I'm wondering if there's some doubt on your part. It sounds like what she said about the e-mail triggered abandonment fears in you, which is perfectly understandable.
Did she say "too dependent?" Because if she put it that way I'm very sorry, that's not very helpful.
You also fear that you're overwhelming her and of course this is going to be hurtful especially since it's clearly already a great fear of yours IRL -but precisely because of this, you might sense this to be the case when in fact she does not feel this way -in any case, you won't know for sure until you ask, and I hope you do! I think you'll feel better sharing how you feel with her, and asking her how she feels, and I'm hoping you'll find that she thinks a lot more highly of you than you think she does at the moment. 
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