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Old Apr 17, 2013, 08:45 PM
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Originally Posted by Syra View Post

translated from professionalspeak to lay language: stop that. I don't like it.

That statement is full of judgments and distancing, not empathy and support and insight.
It says to not be like you are. T is supposed to help you make changes, usually slowly, not tell you how you shouldn't be.

I wonder if she is CBT or DBT or something like that?
I don't think she is saying that at all. It may be "stop that" but I don't hear the "I don't like it" part. I hear the "this is your job part".

I think there is a strong, and natural tendency when, we *finally* begin to develop a trust in a solid object (therapist) that a natural exurberance of feeling, emotion, sharing comes out.

However, for some, one of our jobs is to regulate that exuberance.... channel it into self understanding and not just sharing or validation.

We have to USE that feeling to help ourselves.

I hear this "use it" from the therapist here, not "I don't like it".
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