Isn't this all part of the "black and white thinking" that goes along with BPD?

I don't do well with ambiguity either. I need to know what is expected of me, and don't do well with social ambiguity either which makes navigating relationships and making friendships difficult because the social world is one big gray area. And I don't do gray areas well. I just don't understand them. I get nervous and just don't understand what I'm supposed to do.