I'm sorry to hear that things have been so hard for you at the moment. Unfortunately a lot of people don't know how to react when they hear something like that. A lot of people think it is better to say nothing than say the wrong thing - they don't usually realise how that can hurt even more.

I really would suggest trying to talk to her if you can. Explain where you were coming from and what you need from her. There may be a very good chance she isn't sure what to do now or what you need. I would suggest that you ask if you can talk about what happened and arrange a time where you can both sit quietly and calmly and talk things over.

Also, if you don't feel that you can talk to her could you write to her? Sometimes that is easier for both parties - it gives you both time to think about what has happened and understand the perspectives before sitting together talk about it.

Again, I'm sorry it is so hard I have had friends react in a similar way. Sometimes it has meant that they cannot cope and it can impact the friendship but it could also be a misunderstanding. Personally, I also believe that it is better to know than sit with the awkwardness of not knowing what is happening.