I know most people think that I'm strange but I am in my 40s and I practice abstinence. Many times I feel the need to be intimate with a MAN. I want to be held and comforted. My friend always tells me that when I feel the need to be with a man is really some thing else underneath that feeling. That may be true (lost mother at a young age) but I still want to be comforted by a man and not a women. It is a very natural feeling. I don't think that there is anything wrong with that. I don't want to have sex. I am a true Christian and don't believe in sex outside of marriage. I'm not in a position to begin a relationship with a man. I have three close female relationships and they hold me from time to time when I am in crisis mode. I have male friends but none that are close enough for me to ask them to hold me. My brother gives me hugs but I don't want to ask him to hold me.

I'm just wondering if you feel the same way how do you deal with this? I'm not sure if the way I feel has anything to do with me being diagnosed as Borderline Personality Disorder. I personally don't feel I don't have many characteristics having to do with BPD. I was misdiagnosed with bi-polar.