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Apr 18, 2013, 07:27 AM
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Member Since: Dec 2012
Location: California
Posts: 2,248
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T always told me that I shouldn't have expectations of anyone so high including her and I didn't realize that I was struggling with that until now.
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I'm confused. What she says MIGHT be true, but it's unclear to me what she means. Is it clear to you? Has she told you what expectations are too high? This sounds to me like a defensive statement, but I wasn't there and perhaps the context makes it more helpful
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Honestly I feel like she is trying to help me be more independent with this but I also feel as though she's pushing me away the exact way I told her that everyone else would only in a nicer form.Idk if I'm just crazy and over analyzing everything but my feelings were/are still pretty hurt and I keep telling myself I shouldn't care so much!!!
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I imagine she does have good intentions for you. How is she helping you to be more independent. PUshing someone away doesn't usually help them be more independent, I don't think. It might keep them from being dependent on the person who said that, but it doesn't address the reason for the dependency feelings.
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T gets a bit personal sometimes,so I think that's where it came from. She always says that she says things out of love even if it hurts my feelings,thats not her intention.
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Do I understand that if she says things out of love then it's okay if she hurts the client, because her intentions are good? How often does this happen with her. It sounds like it's a familiar thing for her. Is that a technique you find helpful?
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Okay initially this topic didn't really come up until the end of the session. This is what happened...she gave me a journal to write in at the beginning of T and very rarely have I read anything for her from it and today I let her read something I had wrote and thats when this whole thing started and now I regret ever letting her read it,if I knew that would've been her reaction! 
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You let her read some of her writings, and she didn't like what you wrote? And now you regret giving it to her to read. So do you now feel unsafe telling her who you are?
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