I think it is a human need, I do not want to be touched by most people, and even when my husband and I snuggle, I do not like it for very long, because I get uncomfortable and restless and hot. But at first, the first little bit, is intensely pleasurable. I usually have to ask him to hold me, occasionally he will just do it.
When he is asleep, some times, I will snuggle up against him for a while, or hug him, but it is much better when he wraps himself around me. I feel loved, content, and protected, and it eases some deep, primal need and ache.
I am not a real huggy person, and resist or avoid it from anyone except close friends and family.
When I was very young, like just beginning college, prior to meeting my husband, I behaved in a promiscuous manner. I would drink, smoke pot, and use cocaine, and I was quite easily gotten into bed. I enjoyed having all that man's attention for the night, and to be kissed and touched and held. It never filled the need for long, though.
It is also a somewhat separate need from sexual pleasure, sometimes I just want to be held. I have been with my husband for twenty years, he is the only one I can imagine snuggling with.
If you nave a pet, it helps, I enjoy letting my dog sit on me and petting him. It helps with a touch need. To just be able to touch another living thing (obviously non sexually!) is a need. Plus a pet is unconditional love, my dog thinks I am the greatest thing since sliced bread.
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