On the American tradition of losing weight for the purposes of fitting into a wedding dress. Very bad and dangerous on many levels, in both the short run and the long run. Very bad and dangerous. If you need to look better in a dress and are of the belief that losing 5 lbs would achieve the desired outcome for you, you are better off buying shape wear (of which there exists a wide array of options) that would do the job, do the job better (by making you look 10 lbs skinnier, and not 5 lbs skinnier), do the job in an instant, and not cause any long-term harm.

Also, trash magazines for women that perpetuate the tradition of wanting to lose a little weight in order to fit into a dress (I am not old enough to know if they started the tradition, but I am old enough to observe that they are perpetuating it) have been widely unsuccessful in the past 20 years (I have never read such magazines, but I have stared at their cover pages for lack of anything better to do when waiting in line at grocery stores). How do I know? Well, every next issue has a new diet advertised on the cover. Clearly, the previous diets must have been unsuccessful.

On a more serious note, research has found that most diets are unsuccessful in the long run.

In other words, if you believe that you have the power to lose weight at will, you need to shed this illusion. You might not have the power - everybody would be at her desired weight otherwise. You might be able to lose the weight for a bit and then regain it back and possibly regain more. It is very difficult to reset the set point weight, and, for you, it would be not only very difficult but completely unnecessary.

If you are healthy weight, you should try to keep that weight and avoid unnecessary weight fluctuations. There are weight fluctuations that are non-optional - pregnancy is the main source of such weight fluctuations. You cannot avoid them if you want to have children. But you CAN avoid optional weight fluctuations, and avoiding optional weight fluctuations would give you about 20-25 benefits one can immediately think of. Something has come up in my personal life so I now need to write long letters with a short deadline, and thus will not be able to list the 20-25 benefits of keeping your normal weight constant, but I will give you one reason which should be enough to persuade you to become happy with your weight (which is normal, both per the picture and per your description).

The shape of your bust.

Every weight fluctuation can affect the shape of your bust negatively.

I assume you care about the shape of your bust. Then, you need to limit weight fluctuations to the non-optional weight fluctuations of pregnancy.

Moreover, I have read about weight fluctuations that cause stretch marks both on the breasts and on other areas of the body. There appears to be some predisposition to stretch marks - I am lucky and I do not have them, even though the last baby was born at 9 lbs and I gained too much weight while pregnant with her and did not exercise while being so hugely pregnant - but some women get them even without pregnancies.

Are stretch marks to taut skin as blue eyes to brown eyes?

NO.

Blue eyes are good in their own way and brown eyes are good in their own way, but stretch marks are just plain bad.

So why risk such consequences without need?

To follow the tradition of coming up with puns related to your userid, I will say that you are COURTing disaster by thinking of losing weight while not having any need to do so.

Lastly, if you just want to develop some healthi-er habits (the picture that you posted was with a very cute huge dog, so, since dogs of that size must need a lot of walking, you must already have a good walking or running routine), do not set weight goals (you talked about losing 5 lbs). You do not have control over the weight. You cannot control how the body would respond. Hence, you should not set goals in terms of weight. You CAN control your behavior, so you can set goals in terms of, say, running for 30 minutes daily. For more,

SMART criteria - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

Finally, if you do indeed think of losing weight, and, this way, have some practical concern in mind besides the theoretical concern of getting consensus opinion from males on the completely hypothetical issue of dating an ugly girl who has a great personality to compensate for the lacking looks, you should obtain a consensus opinion. Open a new thread on this forum asking males to opine on whether you need to lose weight (I won't even try to predict the outcome of your polling...). Open another thread on the eating disorders forum asking if anybody has started with something as "innocent" as trying to lose a few pounds without objective need, but then ended up with a full-blown disorder (I do not know the answer, but it would be worth it to find out). Just post a different profile picture, for two reasons: 1) the dog on the original picture was SO cute that he/she distracted me from looking just at you; 2) you were sitting on the porch on the original picture, and while there was enough of the silhouette of the body visible to say that you are clearly not fat and have a good physical shape, a standing picture would give a better opportunity to give you feedback on your idea of losing weight.

And yes, your plan to phrase your posts better is great. Not just because clear phrasing would remove the possibility that malicious people would twist your words, but also because benevolent people would be better placed to advise you. Say, on your thread about saying "yes" to sex, you actually apologized for poor choice of phrasing, without any need to do so

but, and that is the most puzzling thing, did not even attempt to clarify what you termed "poor choice of phrasing". If you were clearer in your phrasing, people would not waste time trying to use the few words that you did put in OP to gain insight into your state of mind. A lot of people decided that you did not really want to have sex based on your choice of "give in" in reference to (hypothetical) sex. If you do want to have sex, say so. Clarify your position; clarify your questions. Clarity in how you pose your questions would always yield better responses for you.

Back to losing weight - I am glad you mentioned it. If that indeed is not something hypothetical, but part of a plan that you might try to implement soon, do yourself a favor by researching long-term implications of attempts to lose weight. I hope you will see for yourself that you should not attempt to lose weight and ultimately learn to be happy in the body that you do have.

Lastly, I am glad you are not pursuing eye color change via contacts, because, it turns out, that carries its own set of risks:

Color Contacts Can Carry Risks - ABC News