I think you saw that it works both ways; what you seek you shall find applies to what you expect/want for yourself you'll find too. The devil isn't making us do stuff and no once/immediate stuff wrecks a relationship suddenly (or not usually, and I have to remember that a relationship is about "over time and distance together"). I only discuss my behavior when I know someone and when/if it is a problem for the other person. I don't want other people playing amateur therapist with me, ever and I don't want to play it for them. When I do something another person likes/does not like, I expect a reaction from them, honest words to the effect, "When you do X I feel Y" and then a discussion so we figure out, together, what WE want to do about my doing X and/or your feeling Y (or vice versa).