Thank you for your thoughtful replies.

I forgot to list that our daughter is also very loving. I guess when I posted I wasn't feeling that so much... Your advice was very good and I didn't realize about the "cutting ties" issues I had, and I agree it's not the right image to give her. She's hasn't been lying this week at all, and has been considerate and helpful, and we've been having a fun time together getting ready for Halloween. I think maybe the two of us need a serious talk about rudeness every three months or so. Her daddy came home Tuesday and that always puts both of us in a better mood, too!

I was in a low spot when I wrote, and your suggestions and encouragement have really helped. I also had coffee with a couple of girlfriends, my mother hasn't called me lately, and with my husband home, things are good! Thanks again for helping out someone you don't even know.