Trigger warning for brief discussion of CSA:

At marriage counseling tonight, we finally discussed the CSA and my mother. My mother did something intensely creepy (at least from my perspective) with my son's girlfriend -- but it looked innocuous and like it could be an 'accidental' thing. Because of my history with her, I reacted in a huge way, but my H actually reacted also and went over and was going to intervene when the GF, grabbed my mother's hand and moved it (in a self-protective way, but not mean or confrontational and I think the GF is really amazing). But the big thing for me was H was READY to step in. Anyway, to discuss this in marriage counseling required me to bring MC up to speed on the whole CSA thing, so I said that when I was growing up and my mother was flagrantly mentally ill, she was abusive in every sense of that word. MC was right there INSTANTLY with the understanding that I was talking about sexual abuse.

I have been alternately impressed and panicked -- thinking he's a great therapist, OR my T told him already. H said, however, that I have talked around the subject a couple of times and mentioned my mother's HUGE boundary issues and my difficulties in close relationships with other women, so he thinks MC basically knew and was just waiting for me to be ready to approach it directly.