Different varieties of therapy have different things to say about transference. Some varieties think that it is an essential part of therapy that the client has a transference response to the clinician. Sometimes clinician's actively encourage it, other times they don't actively encourage it although they expect that it will happen all by itself. Other varieties of therapy think that transference interfeares with theraputic work, however. They may deal with it if it comes up though regret that it has come up, or they may prefer to avoid it altogether.

Transference is when patterns of interation that we have had with figures in our past (e.g., parents, siblings, uncles, authority figures etc) are 'transfered' into patterns of interaction with out clinicians. We may have had a parent who was very controlling, for example, and thus we may interact with our clinician under the assumption that the clinician is controlling (just like our parent) because we haven't learned other ways of interacting with people.

There is a positive / negative transference distinction but I'm not sure what it is based on. I think it might be based on emotions that you have in response to your therapist. Positive transference is when you have all these warm fuzzy feelings for them because they remind you of a person in your past, negative transference is when you feel removed or detached or apart from them (maybe even mad at them or disliking them) because they remind you of a person in your past.

With your latter comment... I wonder if you are thinking about attachment. When someone is securely attached to a person then they feel good when they are with them, they feel good when they think about them, they like spending time with them and think of them and feel safe etc.

I'm wondering... If it is that you don't have those good feelings for your t and if this is what you are worried about?

Sometimes... It takes time for that to happen. Considerable time in some instances. You say you haven't had close relationships ever, but you must have had relationships with your parent/s or caregiver/s? Or with a teacher or two? Maybe... It will just take some time for you to come to trust your t.

The fact that you seem to want it to happen... Is a good start.

:-)