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Originally Posted by Court_Knee
I guess I'm trying to find the line between being a slut and having unrealistic expectations on how long the guy should be willing to wait. If I can't say "not now but maybe in X amount of time" is it really fair to him to be in a relationship with no certainty that it's going to happen?
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I don't know if there is any expectation warranted of a guaranty that there will be any sex when a relationship begins. Relationships
develop... or not
I don't think there is a norm. If it's a good relationship the guy should be willing to wait until you're ready. I guess that
theoretically that means you may have to wait until he is ready
You shouldn't feel compelled to give the guy some sex just because he hung in there long enough to get his reward. I don't think it should be assumed that the ultimate goal of a good relationship is to get in your pants
Also just as an afterthought... if I met someone and our first date included sex I wouldn't consider either of us a sluts. I could say a lot more about that but it would just overcomplicate things.