You're welcome. (And I hope I wasn't coming across as too critical before hand. I just re-read my post and it sounded a little that way O__O)

Anyway, I understand that uncontrollable anger can be exactly that, uncontrollable for some people (- my sister has some sort of anger issues as well). Hmmm I'm not to sure what to suggest as my sister can't exactly control her emotions yet either but perhaps if you're willing to try therapy, maybe it could help? Other than that though I can only suggest that you maybe try to control it by channeling your anger/jealousy. This might sound a tad silly but it could work, have you heard of those stress balls? Well it's fairly easy to carry around, every time you feel any sort of anger/jealousy/unwanted emotions and feel like you're loosing control, you could grab it. I think if we link emotions to certain actions we can maybe learn to control our feelings. For example I've heard that clenching your fist can give you a feeling of determination and will power, and those trying to watch their weight should use this action to help give them a healthy feeling of power and control. Of course err I'm not really sure if that works, just a thought though.

But yea, you do seem further ahead than my sister given that you genuinely are ready and wanting to commit to change. And if you genuinely want that for yourself then I believe you can learn to adapt. I can't advise you in the way an expert can but keep strong and keep up the will power, not only for your girlfriend but for yourself ~