Also, you say it's more secure to be liked for what you have rather than for who you are because as long as you have what you have, they'll always like you. But isn't the same true for who you are too? You're still who you are, always, in fact I'd say there's more chance of someone sticking around for who you are than what you have, because you'll always be you, but you could be skint tomorrow! Unlikely maybe, but more possible than you suddenly not being you.