I'm so sorry. Whether you know it or not, your father is emotionally abusive. He sounds JUST like the father of my children. He was an absolute JERK. He was never wrong, he never apologized once in his life for anything, and he DEMANDED respect -- he didn't EARN it. And he SPOUTED that he loved the kids, but he never SHOWED it. Like YOUR father, he constantly told them how to do things, but didn't show them how. He constantly ordered them about; made them get things for him and hollered if they didn't do it soon enough. He sounds so much like your dad.

You aren't spoiled -- you're abused.

You are CERTAINLY NOT USELESS!!! You get good grades, and you should be PROUD of that! With all this abuse going on at home, I'm surprised it hasn't effected your grades. I'm proud of you that you haven't let it.

You don't NEED to be looking for girls now. You have plenty of years to be doing that! Focus on your studies and have some FUN in school, if you can. These years should be enjoyable for you with great memories!

As for your father -- I wish I had some advice. But I'm afraid I don't. All I can advise is to stay away from him as much as is humanly possible while living in the same house. You probably won't be there too many more years, so try to get along as much as you possibly can -- but steer clear of him too. I'm sorry you have to live like this. Saying it's unfortunate is an understatement.

God bless and please take care of yourself. Hugs, Lee