It wasn't really intended to be a generalization, but I guess it came out looking like "it shouldn't bother you" or "you're wrong in feeling that way". I apologize. I guess I had a poor choice of words. We, as BPDs tend to let things we have no control over get to us, me included. All I was attempting to say is that we cannot control how other people act or say towards us, but we can control how we react to them. That is something we ALL need to work on.