It sounds to me like
1) verbal abuse
2) verbal abuse, exacerbated by exploiting your vulnerabilities (difficult childhood etc) with the use of professional experience and knowledge

Coincidentally, I received this today in the email, with the bold part being basically what you call your boyfriend "analyzing" you. does that sound familiar?

-- a newsletter from Patricia Evans, who specializes in helping the victims of verbal abuse, which she defines as

"Verbal abuse attempts to limit or bring down your consciousness and thus your ability to act.
It defines you in a negative way, threatens you, silences you, or even defines you as non-existent with the silent treatment. There are many ways that verbal abuse can adversely affect you. If someone tells you your motives, needs, thoughts and so forth, they are indulging in verbal abuse. They are defining you as something other than what you are. If you are frequently defined, over time you may begin to doubt yourself."

I find this very helpful and wish I had found out about her earlier.