My transference is just as great as the stories I have read hear. Mine is erotic transference and I do understand it is because I do not have emotional intimacy with any relationship I have been in. I have been married 10 years to a great man who puts up with all my emtonial baggage and is a great provider but he lacks the emotional connection. The transference is ALL consuming and painful because I can not satisfy my need also I was not getting any better in therapy because my therapist just doesn't see the transference or choses to ignore it. I can not bring myself to tell him. A couple of months back he suggested I look into something called EMDR and I accused him of trying to get rid of me because he could not handle my issues or was afraid of me. He assured me he wasn't but I took it badly. Then I read something somewhere about see two therapist to help split the transference so it would not be so emotionally hard. I decided to seek out a therapist for EMDR and he also does IFS. Now I see my therapist I pay out of pocket for and a EMDR therapist insurance pays for. I am now seen twice a week and I can tell you it has eased up on that incredible neediness feeling and the fantasizing I would have for therapist #1. I am finally making progress because EMDR has help in a few weeks that the crap they call CBT has down in 6 months. Therapist #2 is more empathetic and caring and is not afraid to show it. His boundries are not so tight. He insists I contact during the week to give him an update on how I am doing and not to be afraid to call him if I feel I need to see him again during the week. I know the majority can not afford to see two therapists and I am sorry. I am grateful I can work full time even if it is in a boring job that does not require much education.