You are expecting a depressed guy to pamper you. You won't get far with it. This is just a set-up for disappointment.

Also, you are saying that:

"I got him out of it " - meaning, out of the depression.

I think you overestimate your powers and abilities. Read more on this forum. You will find that many well intentioned partners and spouses are having a really hard time trying to help their SO's/spouses shake the depression. I have never read of ANYBODY who claimed to have done it all on her own.

HOWEVER, if, by magic, you DO have the powers and abilities to get a person out of his depression completely single-handedly, then use your powers and abilities now to help yourself out of your state of being low...

On a more serious note, you do deserve a few words of affection, and more than a few words, but you just won't get them out of a guy who is so low. Giving affection requires energy, and depression is a low energy state. It is not his fault that he does not have energy now.

I hope that little by little things will return to the baseline state between you guys.