I just googled a definition and found this:
In any long-term psychotherapy, there are bound to be treatment ruptures. Usually, these ruptures occur when the therapist unwittingly commits an empathic failure with the client. Even the most empathic psychotherapist will, a times, either misunderstand what a client is saying or give a response that is less than empathic. This is usually not intentional. It's a mistake.

I am wondering if I just experienced my first rupture with my now ex-T as of 2 weeks ago, though I could feel something brewing well before that point. I've read about everyone having ruptures with their Ts and was always befuddled by what it actually was....

I had been feeling super misunderstood and unheard and pushed even though I kept telling her that there were some things I was not ready to address. I finally got fed up and a week or so before the I declared I officially declared her as my ex-T I was on the hunt for a new one and then decided I was just going to take a therapy break. I told T this at my session 2 weeks ago (that i needed a break or just wanted to quit) and she told me that I shouldn't take a break, that this is the point in therapy when clients get stuck and want to kick...etc etc....yada yada.

I got super irritated and agitated could feel rage building up and it started to scare me so I told her I needed to be quiet for a second and that I needed her to stop talking. We probably sat in silence for like 5 minutes (it may have been less, but felt like a long time). anyways, I told her I didn't have anything else to say. Needless to say I sent her an email 2 days later telling her that I felt like she didn't understand me and she pretty much confirmed for me that no one would understand me. AND I told her she didn't hear me when essentially I kept telling her "no" that I was not ready to go where she wanted me to go as far as dealing with my history with my mother. I wasn't rude or mean in the email, I just had to get out what I couldn't get out that session b/c I was so shocked.

She called me and asked me to come in today so she could talk to me. I went and I don't remember much, but she essentially apologized for not hearing me when I pretty much was saying in my own words that she was pushing to hard. she apologized for not hearing me and for not meeting me where I was. She said that she figured bc I've made so much surface level progress (going back to school, cutting back on my drinking, etc) that she thought I was ready to tackle the issue with my mother (by inviting her to a T appointment!). She said after she read my email she realized that I wasn't ready to deal with an emotionally charged issue just yet.

She also told me that 2 weeks ago was the first time she'd ever seen me THAT agitated and aggravated and suggested that I go on med WHAT???? BC one day I am really agitated and almost full of rage, she thinks it's cuz i need meds, and didnt consider that maybe I was THAT irritated bc of HER? I didn't say anything about that I just nodded and let her talk.

I am assuming that this was a rupture....