I think one person can get a person out of depression - but it tends to be temporary, like a distraction and the underlining issues tend to be there ready to rear their ugly heads once again. My partner was very very low when we met, and just with our relationship and me being more bubbly, he told be I pulled him out of the depression. But it did come back because he never dealt with his own issues. He also stuttered until shortly after we met, and he told me he'd stuttered all his life. That, thankfully doesn't come back anymore unless really stressed out.

Going to Toko's post, long distant relationships are hard! I had one with my partner (200 miles away) for the first three years of our relationship. It took a heck of a lot of effort and trust. We used to send each other cards or CD's we'd put together, or silly gifts in the post to say we were thinking of each other. We'd talk on the phone. And we didn't stop that until I made the move to be with him (then, sadly, all the thoughtfulness seemed to stop when I moved in, the rotter!). I understand the need to feel loved, especially as he's the one away from home at Uni. But I personally think it's fairly natural for things to settle after a few years to more routine with each other. I know its a change that is a shame to have, but it does seem to happen.

Is he at an important stage at school? It could also explain some of the distraction, as it were, for him. I wonder that as you guys got on fine when he was home. And I know it sounds horrible, but he'd have made a life there without you in it day to day, so it can take over, if you know what I mean.

Is there a way you can rekindle some of the thrill? Do you send him nice things in the post? Can you go visit him at all? I was wondering if you can reach out to him in a fun, lighthearted way, rather than putting on the guilts or pressure. I am not saying you'd do this deliberately, but our body language or saying some things may do this without you meaning to.

The other thing I'd recommend is to keep yourself busy. Go see friends and have a good time. This may help with your own feeling of being low, take your mind off things and also as a side line, when you talk to him you'll be all happy and bubbly and have a ton of things to talk about.

I hope I've not said too much, am only going on my own experiences with long distance.

Hugs