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Originally Posted by Maus5321
I agree with this. But my issue comes in where I have realized my own shortfall because of ADD. How do you explain to someone to who does not other understand and wants an explanation. I had this situation with my father a couple weeks ago. My mother is easy going and will accept things. But my father wants hardcore reasons why, some I just cannot validate or answer.
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One of the issues with our loved ones is "Perception". With ADD we have years of repeat behaviors that are filed as Automatic and Expected. Even after understanding why these things happened and medications beginning to change the behaviors it takes a long time for the new better behaviors to displace the Automated Perception that is in place.
Many don't really want an explanation, because if it is not a point blank "Why" they just think we are making excuses. Save your energy... It is better just to say "Sorry I mess up" and move on. ADD behaviors can be pretty frustrating to those without ADD, so we cannot expect automatic acknowledgment of every improved reaction or behavior.
It takes time to create a new "Perception"