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Originally Posted by YYZadd
One of the issues with our loved ones is "Perception". With ADD we have years of repeat behaviors that are filed as Automatic and Expected. Even after understanding why these things happened and medications beginning to change the behaviors it takes a long time for the new better behaviors to displace the Automated Perception that is in place.
Many don't really want an explanation, because if it is not a point blank "Why" they just think we are making excuses. Save your energy... It is better just to say "Sorry I mess up" and move on. ADD behaviors can be pretty frustrating to those without ADD, so we cannot expect automatic acknowledgment of every improved reaction or behavior.
It takes time to create a new "Perception"
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I am still pretty flawed. We had family member pass away recently. I did not react I guess as you should. Needless to say I did not notice it but my response was pretty cold. Not trying to justify it. But i did not notice it was not the proper response, I felt bad after but what do I say after, I dunno how to make it right. I have almost forgotten how to feel sadness. But then again I use to cry a lot so I have done away with that pretty much, since I got made fun of for it a lot. I have no use for it so I have learned to do away with it. My mom then told me she does not understand how I am so cold or don't show emotion, since I was loved as a child and use to show it to people. Who knows. It is almost like I have learned to shove my emotions down or get rid of them since they cause me so much trouble in the past.