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Originally Posted by Maus5321
I am still pretty flawed. We had family member pass away recently. I did not react I guess as you should. Needless to say I did not notice it but my response was pretty cold. Not trying to justify it. But i did not notice it was not the proper response, I felt bad after but what do I say after, I dunno how to make it right. I have almost forgotten how to feel sadness. But then again I use to cry a lot so I have done away with that pretty much, since I got made fun of for it a lot. I have no use for it so I have learned to do away with it. My mom then told me she does not understand how I am so cold or don't show emotion, since I was loved as a child and use to show it to people. Who knows. It is almost like I have learned to shove my emotions down or get rid of them since they cause me so much trouble in the past.
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I have that issue too, but probably much worse. i'm not bragging by any means. i do feel bad about it, but i can be extremely cold to people who i'm close to. its like being emotional with them just feels gross or awkward. i'm not entirely sure why that is, but it makes it hard to connect with people. i wish i could give advice on how to handle it, but i can't give advice that i'm not willing to follow, myself.
as far as grieving goes, everyone does it differently. both on an individual level and also on a cultural level. no one else can tell you how to react in those situations as long as you're not being outright disrespectful or callous. sometimes other people are actually the ones who are wrong, and its important to know when. defiance isn't always appropriate though. sometimes just knowing you're not at fault is enough.